I don’t mind kissing on both cheeks–I’d rather we imported that custom than this silly half-hugging.

And she is, I think. She’d not daft.

Isabelle: I have tried for a long time to find someone who’d be interested in a looser confederation, but IME women aren’t very interested in that, so it’s a case of trying to bend yourself to what’s available. We had quite a nice couple of days recently though. We’ll see.

I think Unbearable had the same problem with phone posting once. I’m afraid I can’t help you with it technically.

p.s.I’ve tried to comment a few times from my phone but for some reason it didn’t work.

Did the greeting include kissing each cheek? So forced.

Effortful. That’s the most telling thing in this post. I think she’s fully aware of what’s in your head. No honestly required on your part.

And please note, I said SOME women. Also I didn’t say they didn’t enjoy the sex too, the relationship is just an added benefit.

Daisy–you’re a lovely dirty fucker and if we were closer I’d be clinking glasses suggestively with you. For me, there’s no such thing as “casual sex". Sex that works has an affective and emotional dimension to it. Otherwise it’s masturbation but using someone else for the friction.

F: If “being in a relationship” involves suppressing who you are or what you want to do then I’m not interested. I understand that many people enjoy the benefits of clamping someone else down in a vice of physical proximity and sexual exclusivity, but you can count me out of that game.

However there is something in his comment you need to compromise in relationships. But what do I know I’ve been in a relationship with the same woman for over 30 years now

- i use all of my fingers when i hug.

- It’s nice that you defend your quirky friend. i do that on occasion. It comes up sometimes when i mix up the social groups.

- Relationships. What are you gonna do? i had a long conversation yesterday with my “friend with benefits", who lives in another town. He was amazed at the amount of festive casual sex opportunities that i turn down. “People are on the other side of my genitals, and that means there is some sort of relationship that must happen. i’m too tired these days for all that work…”

This doesn’t seem complicated to me at all. In fact it seems like our old adage about not getting the milk without buying the cow.

Good luck on your non relationship.