Memory pills

For years, I had a girl who was just a friend (as opposed to a girlfriend). She was astonishingly beautiful. Men were constantly hounding her. I felt no sexual chemistry with her whatsoever. We went on vacation together to the Bahamas and were roommates for a spell, all with not a hit of passion between us. Then, one evening, after years of friendship I was sitting across the dinner table from her and I was gobsmacked. I wanted her. That was the end of the friendship. Pfft. Just like that.

Your posts are more interesting than 90% of the crap that’s out there.

I’m a little worried about that happening myself, although I think it’ll be OK. I know what you’re talking about. I’ve been introduced to girls where you don’t really register anything about them at first then all of a sudden, at an unpredictable time later, something they say or do makes a switch goes off in your head and you suddenly find them attractive. When that happens, it’s almost depressing, realising the work ahead. I can’t be arsed with the whole performance of it any more.

Kim is expert at making clear the boundaries early on. I don’t think what happened transgressed those limits. And besides, she’s totally straightforward and would have said something by now.

Thank you for the second bit. I just write about what happens to me.

Update: I certainly haven’t fucked anything up with Kim. A couple of dead nice emails from her have arrived.

there is something so delicate about close, non-sexual relationships. i’ve had that ’switch’ moment. i’ve also had it go the other way - where i’ve been drooly-hot for some man and then catch a glimpse of him fiddling with his car keys, or trying to figure out a cross-word puzzle and can almost hear the audible ‘pop’ of “What was i thinking?” as it all goes away…

this is a very sweet post…

I’ve had the reverse switch too. Always a slight let down. And thanks. I always look forward to spending time with Kim but this time has been special.

Men and women cannot usually just be natural friends in my opinion. Sex rears its very important head alongside your erection and bang goes the friendship, pardon the pun.

Take the delicious daisyfae for instance, hotter than hell itself, more sex appeal than you can shake a stick at, but I value her friendship very highly indeed. Would I risk our platonic friendship for a night of scorching passion?

The answer is…

I’m frightened to say anything that might spoil the sweet delicacy of the sublime moment.

Oh yes, I knew there was something.

I just hope you were wearing a condom.

Welcome CF. Yes, I’ve gathered that daisyfae is someone you’d like to take :)

I’m not so sure about the impossibility of being platonic friends–I’ve managed it with several women for many years. I don’t think even now that Kim and I’s non-sexual relationship has changed (although I realise some people might think that masturbating together in bed does stretch the definition of “non-sexual” a bit).

TSB: No, but what me and Kim got up to didn’t involve actual physical contact.

No, but what me and Kim got up to didn’t involve actual physical contact.

WHY?

Because that’s how it happened naturally. The more I talk about it the odder it sounds–but it just happened, with us both doing a bit of DIY, but knowing we were both doing the same thing. It was BRILLIANT, and I’m sorry for the capitals, but it was fucking fantastic, one of the best sexual experiences I’ve ever had, partly because of the sexual side of it and partly because it felt so intense because I like her so much and it was an expression of that.

OTOH, actual me on/in/under etc. Kim sex is a step too far and would cross the boundaries of which we are both aware and enjoy respecting.

Cathinones had to look that one up!!