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A drive
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Funny thing that women who like sex are ridiculed while men that do are praised. I hope Chris’s operation went well and she recovers soon. So for now, let’s eat, drink and be merry.
I prefer Carpe Diem to Memento mori, dear. It’s more positive, I think.
It’s not right. What an interesting world it would be if women were granted the same sexual licence as men.
I think it’s good to seize the day, although it sometimes suggests a degree of effort I can’t be bothered with.
Chris’s op is on Tuesday. She reads this so she’ll be aware of your good wishes.
i never felt the need to have a licence. when i had far more drive, i was quite intimidating to many man - which served as a good filter. if they can’t handle the sense of the drive, then they sure as fuck won’t be able to handle the actual sex…
I wish I’d meet a woman who wanted sex and had drive like that…
should I admit that? Well I have so that’s that - though to be honest I’m so inept with the opposite sex I’d balls it up in no time if I was ever in that position
Oh I meant to say - why do men dismiss women who want sex? I don’t get that at all - I hear it but I don’t get it
Oh, yes, best wishes to Chris. Being in hospital is at least good practice in one specific way for the most sordid of parties: knickers very much optional.
Good job Daisyfae and Furtheron didn’t meet when they were younger then :)
I’m having my twenties now. My twenties were mainly sexless. Not sure why. Timidity? Now, I love flirting. It’s the best game adults can play. And sometimes one or other party does lose their knickers.
SB: Thanks–she’s just emailed me some old pictures of our internet meets from twelve and more years ago!
I flirt like it’s my last day on earth. I’m an expert at it but there’s never any follow-up. My drive got up and drove away. I knew it would happen when I got older but I didn’t think it’d happen this soon.
To me, long term relationships kill good sex. I suppose you just have to decide whether the compensations are worth it. I’m doing it in reverse. I’ve had my years of sexual boredom already.
Also, it’s a constant joy to me to discover that I really fancy women my own age or older. One of my male friends, a little older than me, I’ve almost stopped going out with him because he makes these toe-curlingly embarrassing passes at women in their twenties. I cringe, being tainted by association.
Here’s a recent report on a regrettable phenomenon: “Less than a quarter of over-50s satisfied with their sex life”.
A very interesting and self explanatory page, indeed. (Or perhaps it has a secret password?) ;)
Flirting is a skill and as such, it can be learned. None of us are born knowing how to bring any man/woman to his knees with just a blink. It needs a lot of practice but if you try hard, you may get your mojo back.
I was talking to Mr. Pain. This situaction reminds me of Austin Powers struggling to get his groove back.
No-one struggles to get their sex drive back. You choose to do so. The people that “struggle” are the ones who have settled down in a sexless long-term relationship, with its compensations, but who privilege the financial and other forms of stability it provides, whilst imagining themselves as highly sexed people, but in situations which will never actually occur.
Sorry Looby, but I disagree. Some even take all sort of crap to get their sex drive back.
Whether they struggle or decide to do so… I don’t think one possibility excludes the other. Just my opinion, dear.
No, perhaps it’s not so black and white as that. Just that I come across lots of men my age who repeat a trope of an imagined wonderful sex life. “Well do something about it then rather than standing here and talking about it.”
One quite radical option for these men would be to restart a sex life with the wife, but that’s a bit far out for some blokes.
Anyway, what’s so brilliant about a great sex life? Wanking is great and should be considered a great sex life if you can do it well.
Was lovely to see you too and thank you so much for introducing me to “Barry” :-)
Well, that developed in a fabulous way I didn’t anticipate, and very glad I am about it too. Excellent “Chris"–and the NYE gang (more or less) will see you both on Friday! x
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